Advent: A Season of Listening

Dr. Agnes S Thomas

As kids, preparing for Christmas was just as important—and magical—as the day itself. Those with musical Talent honed their caroling skills, while the creative ones built mangers using sticks, hay, and anything else they could find. Then there were the star makers, crafting shining symbols of the season. It was a time of immense joy, filled with hours spent in the church. The experience was both fulfilling and fun, something everyone eagerly anticipated. Notably, it was a season free of shopping—a tradition I still try to uphold as much as possible.

As an adult, my reflections on the season shift each year. Sometimes they are deeply influenced by the social or political climate; other times they are shaped by the tidings of my faith journey. Regardless of the situation, I often wonder how Mary and Joseph would have responded, what Jesus would have done, and so on.

As the season approaches this year, I am reflecting on a talk by our Archbishop, the Most Reverend Francis Leo. At a recent event, he spoke about listening, a sense of community, and hospitality as the antithesis to polarization. These are also core themes of the Christmas story, which is still unfolding.

Listening and discernment were central to everything that unfolded during Advent and afterward, enabling promises and prophecies to be fulfilled across generations, lands, and people. It makes one wonder: what if these events were to take place today? The circumstances would look so different with all our technologies and social advancements. There would be no need for a donkey; with the right resources, one could choose a mode of transportation to suit their preference and comfort. Accommodation options would be abundant and communication would be instantaneous—there is no need for a guiding star when GPS and smartphones are at our fingertips. There wouldn’t even be a need to travel. A video call via Zoom or WhatsApp could replace an in-person visit and gifts could be sent instantly, just a click away. But would these advancements help us discern what is truly good, deepen our connections, or bring us closer to one another?

While the question of whether the advancements of our society are genuinely accessible and equally beneficial to all remains, I want to shift our focus to how listening and discernment made the impossible possible during the first Christmas. Remarkably, the good news of that time continues to be shared—not stored away on a shared drive or in some cloud space, but living and active in our world today. This leads to a profound question: What if we, as humans, dared to pay closer attention to the stirrings of our hearts and the dreams within us? What if we truly mastered the art of deep listening—to ourselves, one another, and the world around us? Could we then become bearers of good news, channels of goodness, and beacons of hope in a world yearning for light?

Through deep listening and discernment, Mary, Joseph, the Magi and the shepherds knew precisely what they were meant to do. They recognized whom to follow and which direction to take, reading the signs of their times with clarity and conviction. Despite their challenges, they found the courage to act, trusting in a promise far greater than their understanding. They followed a bigger star, a more profound truth, and an enduring hope in their hearts.

We, too, could partner in grander plans—plans that bring joy, peace, and prosperity to all—if we genuinely commit to listening and discerning as Mary (Luke 1:26–38), Joseph (Matthew 1:18–25), the Magi (Matthew 2:1–12) and the shepherds (Luke 2:15) once did. They were humble and simple people, but what made them special was their willingness, availability, trust, and faith—virtues that allowed them to become partners in God’s grander plan.

In this Advent season, as we reflect on the state of our world—a world fraught with turmoil, pain, and polarization—we are called to a deeper listening as people of faith. We are invited to pray for the grace to hear the cries of the poor, the broken-hearted and the oppressed. As we have witnessed in the Christmas story, this act of listening is not passive; it is the foundation for discerning how we can respond with justice, kindness and compassion.

Pain and Suffering in the Circle of Life!

A recurring and often-debated topic among both the young and the elderly in religious and non-religious discourse centers on the views of sadness and joy, and/or scarcity and abundance. These discussions frequently reveal a common theme – an inclination to associate suffering and pain with punishment for past transgressions, the sins of our ancestors, or even as a curse upon our families. This prevailing perspective can lead many to view God as a stern figure to be feared. Thus, casting a shadow of doubt over the image of the forgiving father depicted in the parable of the prodigal son (Luke 15:11-24).

Engaging with the curious minds of young individuals often leads to some poignant questions. They asks, “If God is loving and merciful, why do tragedies befall my family, friends, or siblings?” Others question the existence of violence, war, and calamity, wondering if these are the handiwork of a benevolent deity. In such moments, a fundamental question emerges: Is suffering a creation of God or a consequence of humanity’s insatiable pursuit of power, privilege, and unbridled greed? Are the poverty, war, and natural disasters that plague our world the result of humans straying too far from love and the common good? Are we fostering a generation that is driven by self-interest and devoid of empathy? What are the consequences of neglecting to offer nurturing guidance, and to show care to people/children in our charge?

Here, I delve into one facet of suffering—human-induced suffering. However, we also suffer daily, from various sources such as death, illness, and loss. These experiences collectively form the intricate tapestry of our existence, blending sadness with joy in varying degrees. Anyone who attempts to evade pain and suffering unknowingly weaves an illusory protective blanket around life that dilutes its inherent meaning and purpose. By rejecting pain and suffering rather than embracing it, we inadvertently ensnare ourselves in a cycle of avoidance, perpetuating enduring issues for ourselves and those around us[ES1] .

The journey toward comprehending, accepting, and finding meaning in life’s delicate balance of pain and pleasure often commences in our formative years within the sanctity of our homes and immediate surroundings. It demands candid, untarnished conversations, free from avoidance. Adults, parents, and elders must be willing to traverse life’s intricate ebbs and flows with children, unveiling that life, much like the natural cycle of birth and death, encompasses scarcity and abundance, pain and pleasure, sadness and joy. Our responses to these inescapable facets of existence are matters of personal choice, independent of divine retribution or the transgressions of our forebears. While we can mitigate their impact through informed decisions, life only truly attains depth and purpose when we acknowledge its inherent duality.

A brief glimpse into the lives of saints and change-makers who have left indelible marks on the world reveals portraits of bravery and fortitude. Their journeys were not devoid of pain and suffering; indeed, they were interwoven with threads of joy, love, and an unwavering commitment to the path of enlightenment.

As parents, family members, teachers, and community builders, one of our paramount responsibilities should revolve around creating safe spaces for individuals, particularly children, to openly discuss pain, suffering, and the precious gift of life. This endeavour aims to liberate us from the superstitious cycle of judgment, fear, and avoidance of pain by ushering in a gentle acceptance of life’s intricate truths. It endows us with the courage to confront our challenges and the willingness to seek assistance when necessary. Suffering should not be a source of shame; rather, it serves as a wellspring of invaluable lessons and an invitation to delve deeper into the enigmatic mysteries of life.

Are we open to sharing our fears and strategies for navigating pain? Do we encourage seeking help when needed? How do we diligently ensure that conversations about pain and suffering occur alongside discussions of joy and abundance, nurturing a profound sense of gratitude for our lives? In our approach to life’s inevitable trials and tribulations, can we follow in the footsteps of the saints who have walked this path before us, and emerge with grace and enlightenment? These are the questions that beckon us to embark on a journey of deeper introspection and compassionate dialogue, ensuring that the next generation is equipped with the wisdom to navigate the intricate tapestry of life.

-Originally published in https://lightoftruth.in

Love that transforms fear!

The themes of joy, love, fear, and suffering are often on my mind concerning people and relationships that I encounter. Like many of you, I see the way evil manifests in the way war and other forms of destruction deeply impact many of us and the people and communities we care about. It breaks my heart to see the young and old alike struggling to find meaning in the chaos of the world and, in turn, dealing with anxiety and fear every day and being afraid to love and trust. I also see how a world in turmoil dominates our conversations, making us doubt each other and be weary of hearing others talk about love, justice, and mercy. In essence, it robs us of joy and fills our minds with fear of one another and the unknown. While we might feel comforted by the distance from conflicts and disasters, it’s vital to recognize how they influence our lives, choices, and perspectives.  They’re like an uninvited guest silently occupying the center of our homes, even as we strive to keep our doors shut against the world’s perils. It controls our real and imaginary lives, plans, and how we treat one another. What can we draw our faith/spiritual journeys during times of darkness, and what does it teach us about dealing with darkness?

In my own journey, the resurrection narrative offers valuable lessons and hope about overcoming darkness with light. It shows how fear is taken over by love and turns into joy. The reassurance and the gentle care for one another are felt so deeply in the reading of Matthew 28:1-10. The message of love and peace and our call to be the messengers of that good news are summarized in three key phrases here: “Do not be afraid” (which is brought up repeatedly), “Peace be with you,” and “Go and tell others.” The resurrected Jesus, the angel, and the women present and their relatively short encounter that morning changed history. If we are able to place ourselves in the story, we too can see living our own stories of love, despair and suffering and the joys of resurrection when we overcome the shadow of death. However, how often do we believe we are people of the resurrection?

The life, death and resurrection of Jesus tell us we have nothing to be afraid of, and in fact, we should be messengers of the same.

The women at the tomb are waiting, watching, and taking a risk with their lives to be there for the one they believe was their messiah, offering humanity a lesson on radical love and courage.  Love transformed their fear and made them courageous warriors, faithful in waiting and wanting to do the right thing amid agony and sorrow. They also had to overcome their doubt to believe what they saw and share it with others. They became the first ones to deliver the message of hope after the darkness overtook their town and their hearts with the death of their beloved leader.  The women at the tomb show us we too can be witnesses of the light and be the peace givers; encourage the ones around us not to be afraid in the face of adversity; we too can become the light bearers for others who are feeling abandoned and in the dark. They remind us of faithfulness and radical love as essential ingredients to eliminate darkness and fear from our homes, communities and countries. Another important lesson from the story is that to be messengers of love, you don’t have to have special privileges, money, or fame.

 There are leadership lessons in this story for people, be it in family life, community, and leading nations, that the most essential gift you offer others is your genuine love and kindness, a radical act to be in service of the other.  It can be as simple as creating safety, providing peace in times of struggle, and leading by example like the women. If there are enough of us to choose love over fear and be bearers of good news, we may change the world order to be one of peace and harmony. Thus, our news will be ‘good news’ every day, and people may experience the true meaning of resurrection, which is radical love! 

 -Originally published in https://lightoftruth.in

The Garden that Keeps Giving!

This reflection centers on another one of my valuable lessons from the garden. In the fall, we prepare our garden for winter. As part of this winterizing project, we cut, prune, and plant bulbs or spread seeds for spring. Much like life, gardening is an exercise in patience, resilience, and careful nurturing. Every cut and every seed planted mirrors human growth and the lessons we learn through hardship and discipline.  It also symbolizes reciprocity in life.

This reflection focuses on observations made and lessons learned after last year’s winterizing project. My gardening partner particularly enjoys this phase more than any other task. However, it’s not one of my favourites, as I often empathize with the plants during the cutting and pruning. Yet, I recognize it’s necessary for their growth.

As usual, the garden was cleaned up, and the grapevine roots were almost unrecognizable—short and stumpy, a stark contrast to the long vines and lush green leaves we had appreciated throughout the summer.  I felt the dogwood had been pruned too severely, but knowing my tendency to criticize anyone who removes even a single leaf, I let it go as one of my pet peeves.

When spring arrived this year, it brought with it the first signs of life from the garden. The grapevines, as expected, took their time to show any growth, often challenging us on our fragile trust and patience in the natural cycle of life. This time, however, it wasn’t the grapevine that worried me but the dogwood, which stood lifeless, with no new sprouts or leaves well into summer. No amount of prodding, extra soil, or water seemed to help; it refused to budge. This led to my grumbling about my partner’s pruning skills.

Around the same time, a few conversations about parenting choices and discipline among family and friends made me reflect on our grapevine and dogwood situation. The grapevine is accustomed to deep cuts, being reduced to its basics each season to prepare for vibrant life the following year. It nurtures its life deep within, ready to bloom again. Two things happen with the grapevine each season: it embraces its role in flourishing and demonstrates the resilience to endure the necessary pruning for a bountiful harvest. It knows its purpose, and anyone tending to it must recognize that pruning is vital for its growth.

In contrast, the dogwood had been pruned too severely, so it couldn’t return to its flowering season on time. It needed an entire season to show any signs of life, let alone produce flowers.

Both plants needed pruning to survive the winter and prepare for their flowering season, but they required different approaches tailored to their unique nature and strength. Only then could they return to their fullness.

The lessons these plants offer are clear. Like humans, each plant is uniquely designed and requires different types of care and experience to reach its full potential. Like plants, we all respond to pain, disappointment, discipline, and criticism with varying levels of resilience. Some wither under life’s hardships and need extra support to recover, while others bounce back with remarkable strength. A few even embrace pain as a catalyst for growth. Although the process is highly individual, we all share a common goal: to bear fruit and contribute to one another in this interconnected existence.

From a human perspective, these lessons on pruning emphasize that discipline is often uncomfortable, even painful. There are seasons of darkness, solitude, and invisibility, yet through these periods, we grow. We are shaped and moulded until we are ready to bear fruit and bring forth the results of our labour.

A second important lesson for gardeners, teachers, parents, and caregivers is to be mindful of each person’s sensitivities and uniqueness in the vast garden of life. Understanding an individual’s capacity to receive discipline, feedback, and care is essential to their self-realization and growth. Comparing a grapevine to a dogwood and treating them the same could harm both. Therefore, we should celebrate each individual’s uniqueness while honouring our shared humanity and collective purpose in this great garden of life.

In the garden, as in life, growth requires attention, patience, and respect for each unique journey. By learning to nurture with care, we help one another bloom.

“He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit, he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful.” (John 15:2)

 -Originally published in https://lightoftruth.in

 

 

Family – Our Window to the World

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“The family is the first essential cell of human society.”– Pope John XXIII

We live in a time when the foundation of family and its significance are more critical than ever. The dictionary defines “family” as a basic social unit consisting of parents and their children, considered as a group, whether living together or apart (dictionary.com). This definition suggests that family involves both children and adults, hinting at a hierarchical structure where children depend on adults for their well-being and development. It also underscores the relationship between adults as fundamental to how children understand relationships, making adults responsible for modelling healthy behaviours and life choices.

In this article, I will explore a few of the fundamental gifts and pillars of a healthy family and how these serve as windows to the world for those fortunate enough to be part of one. I will qualify my reason for describing the family as a blessing. From my interactions with children and adults, I’ve learned that some express deep gratitude for being part of a positive and healthy family. Others feel they were denied the opportunity to grow in such an environment. I hope that we can reflect on the kind of family we should aspire to create and understand its significance in shaping a better world for all of us.

Family creates a place of belonging 

As a mother of three and someone who grew up in a large extended family with siblings and many cousins, one fundamental aspect I’ve learned about family is the sense of belonging it provides. Based on my experience, our first awareness of being part of a group begins at home. When a family creates a sense of belonging for its members, they feel rooted and emotionally safe. This starts with the adults, who begin to cultivate a sense of safety and belonging when they foster and model security in their own relationships. 

Freedom to express joy or frustration with family gives us the confidence to be authentic. At the heart of this experience is a sense of safety and care, knowing we won’t be judged for being ourselves. 

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Another example of belonging and family, provided by a young person I mentor, is the feeling of being validated and caring for one another. This, in turn, helps them appreciate relationships and leads them to want to eventually create a similar structure. 

Key characteristics of a family where everyone feels a sense of belonging include acceptance and inclusion, where individuals feel safe being themselves and are appreciated. Shared experiences, consistency in how family members relate to and rely on one another, and a sense of safety in each other’s presence all contribute to this feeling. Additionally, belonging is strengthened when each person contributes to the family’s well-being and is acknowledged and valued. 

Family is the first book of life bound by love 

As a bookworm, I like to think of family as a book that offers life lessons and shapes the members’ worldview through its teachings. The adults in the family—their relationships and actions—are like the book’s chapters, providing critical lessons for the children in their care. Based on my experience and that of my peers, I would divide this book into four key areas with love as the thread that binds each chapter: 1, Dignity, Respect and moral compass; 2. Faith and spiritual development 3. Healthy Relationships and Social Skills 4. Construction of the world view. 

While it may not cover every aspect of family life, I highlight some as central to my understanding of family and reflect my observations of children who carry these lessons into their choices. Although I won’t elaborate on how children often bring fresh and unique perspectives to life, I want to acknowledge that they can be great teachers for adults, especially when they are given a safe space to ask questions and express their thoughts. 

Family shapes the sense of self and dignity with a moral compass 

A well-run family offers values for developing and leading a worthy life deserved by all. It teaches lessons on how to discern right from wrong. For example, it is in the family that a child first learns that lying or stealing is unacceptable. In their formative years, children learn if it is okay to share feelings and/or confess wrongdoings. Their parents’ reaction will determine their future course of action. 

They also learn to respect themselves and others by setting boundaries and caring for their health and well-being. One adverse effect of adults not setting correct examples in these areas is that children lose the opportunity to develop the ability or skills to navigate or choose things or relationships that are good for them, making them vulnerable in their external surroundings. 

Family offers the first lessons on faith and spiritual development 

Drawing from my example, one of the best gifts I received from my family was my faith. My parents played a crucial role in developing my spiritual foundation and personal relationship with God. 

As parents, my husband and I draw from our own experiences of growing up with evening family prayers as a central part of our lives, though we’ve made some adjustments. As we continue this tradition in our household, we view it as a way of passing on the faith we received in our childhood to our children. We all appreciate the check-in time we’ve added to our prayer routine, which offers moments for reflection, fellowship, or even the chance to discuss or debate something one of us feels strongly about. I believe this practice is essential to the well-being of our family. 

Family is where one should learn healthy relationships and social skills 

Many of us can agree that one of the first lessons we learn in a communal family setting is the importance of community and social bonds. Our internal familial relationships give us the confidence and encouragement to seek friendships and social connections without fear. Looking back, I believe this was where we first learned to mirror external relationships, respect different perspectives, and appreciate various communication styles. 

No one goes through life without experiencing conflict, grief, or mistakes—these are inherent to being human. Our response to adversity often reflects the skills learned from our earliest social unit: the family. 

Family is where we first learn to communicate, forming the foundation for how we interact with the world. It’s also where we learn to cope with difficulties, and our responses outside the home often replicate the behaviours modelled by the adults around us, for better or worse. 

In today’s increasingly diverse world, how we encounter people, cultures, and beliefs different from our own is primarily shaped by the lessons we first learn and observe at home. 

Family is the first window to the world 

The family shapes the initial worldview, influencing how a person engages with the world and treats all of creation. 

Interacting with young people and couples often reminds me of how the adults in their lives shaped their understanding of the world. I see two distinct perspectives among them. Some are deeply sensitive and dedicated to the common good, feeling responsible for the well-being of their friends, neighbours, and community. Others view the world as existing primarily for their own needs, with loyalty confined to their immediate circle. Both mindsets reflect what they learned from their families about their responsibility to themselves and the world. 

Family is where a child first learns to value or ignore their role in building a shared humanity. When families model generosity and reciprocity beyond their homes, they teach children the importance of interconnectedness and equality rather than a hierarchy of values. 

In sum, we all recognize and appreciate that a healthy and solid family structure is critical for a healthy and solid society, and we are responsible for creating and supporting one where people grow and thrive. In offering gratitude for families, I am also acutely aware of the need to intentionally pray for families to be a place of belonging where people learn, grow, find their God-given purpose on earth and become a gift to the rest of the world. 

“And whoever does not provide for relatives and especially family members has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” (1 Tim 5:8). 

-Originally published in https://lightoftruth.in 

The Life of a Sunflower and Its Example of Humility

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Dr. Agnes Thomas 

“Humility, however deep it be, neither disquiets nor troubles nor disturbs the soul; it is accompanied by peace, joy and tranquillity.” Theresa of Avila

Sunflowers are lovely; they rise high and stand tall in suitable soil. What I admire most about sunflowers is their beauty and how their bright colour can lift the observer’s spirits. But what makes them truly special to me is the reminder they carry. Every time I see a sunflower, I am reminded of the virtue of humility, especially regarding relationships. Allow me to expand. Let me explain how these plants remind me of the virtue of humility and what they can teach us about relationships grounded in humility. For example, a sunflower takes approximately two to three months from seed to bloom; that is an entire season and the lifespan of that plant. A single sunflower has roughly a thousand seeds in it, and they are highly nutritious when fully ripened. If vital life relationships were like sunflowers, able to be planted and nurtured for the duration of their life, they, too, would be a beautiful bloom to watch. Similarly, when properly nurtured, relationships produce many fruits that can nourish all those around. So, in this brief reflection, I aim to examine what we can learn from the sunflower and how humility serves as a pillar for good relationships.

A fully bloomed sunflower head is slightly bent as if offering itself to the world in praise and glory for its life. It reminds me of many great people who led and contributed much to the world, having that posture of humility instead of pride and an “I am above everybody” attitude. The sunflower offers a lesson in how we should position ourselves. When in glory and filled with the seeds of life, like our gifts, talents, and positions of influence in our private and public lives, we must remember that our calling in life is to serve others. We are in relationships not to seek dominance or compete but to be present.


I used to think humility meant living in the shadows and making others believe you are less than them. However, from experience and the many good people who influenced my life journey, I learned humility is about acknowledging and accepting the truth of who we are. False humility can be disastrous for us and others; it shows us that if you pretend to be something else or feel obliged to, you are either in the wrong place with the wrong crowd or not self-aware.


We all know it is easier to live, work and participate in projects with humble people. So, what makes humble individuals so appealing? They are easy to be around, open to learning, and accepting of both perfection and imperfection. They constantly seek ways to grow and are comfortable with their humanity. Whether in personal or professional relationships, we all want to be at ease and respected for who we are. Humility enables us to connect with others in a way that is both desirable and authentic, much like the sunflower.


As Mother Theresa famously said, “If you are humble, nothing will touch you, neither praise nor disgrace, because you know what you are.” A humble person is self-aware; a self-aware person knows their flaws and gifts. In relationships, they accept others for who they are without trying to prove superiority or foster unnecessary competition. Their self-awareness allows them to be open to learning and growing with others, understanding there is always room for improvement. Humble people are not swayed by fame or shame, success or failure; they remain grounded and content with themselves, like the bright sunflower—always pleasant.

Another gift that humility brings to relationships is mutual respect and a high regard for others. Like the sunflower, which stands tall in a garden alongside different plants, a humble person remains confident without being clingy. Sometimes, I feel that this plant offers a perfect meditation on worship, as a graceful offering of gratitude to our Creator. The sunflower is beautiful and serene, unaffected by its surroundings, constantly striving to be present.

A relationship founded on humility fosters mutual respect, learning, and gratitude. This foundation leads to peace and spreads goodness in the world. Like the sunflower, humility radiates joy and light.
 

-Originally published in https://lightoftruth.in 

Human Dignity and the Call of the Gospel

From her experience living with the L’Arche community, she writes about human dignity and Christ’s teachings on it.

Dr. Agnes Thomas

I began to understand and explore the concept of human dignity as a core value when I started living in the community of L’Archei. Understanding what it means to uphold your dignity, dignified behaviours, etc., was commonplace in terms of growing up. However, I later realised that the notion of dignity was often intertwined with social constructs like class, caste, gender, occupation, and abilities. It was not seen as an inherent quality possessed by all humansii but rather as something earned or inherited, placing individuals in a hierarchical or social order. L’Arche offers a different worldview by organising community life where people with and without disabilities live together, sharing everyday life and work. This inclusive design removes barriers to participation, ensuring that everyone has a role to play. At L’Arche, upholding the value of human dignity is not just an aspiration but a way of life. While I am not seeking to idealise L’Arche as I acknowledge that the community has its drawbacks, I do want  to share a few characteristics of community life that are transformational for people who are open to taking a long look at themselves and dare to ask how we treat the world and people who are not like us.

Reflecting on my experiences a couple of decades later, various themes emerged as I began to critically examine the notion of human dignity from the lens of a believer, social scientist, and social justice advocate. In this article, I will share some of the themes and experiences that influenced me over the years. I will also address the questions that I am challenged with and that still influence my choices and leadership practices, that involve humans from all walks of life, particularly people facing disparities and living on the margins of our societies. The key questions we will reflect on are: What do we mean by human dignity, and can we find examples in the teachings of Christ? How does a community like L’Arche provide us with tools to assess our own views and assumptions of human dignity? What can we learn from the L’Arche example, and how do we apply our learning in our everyday lives?

Two accidental sublime discoveries shaped different periods of my life: my time in the communities of L’Arche and my discovery of Catholic Social Teaching (CST). At L’Arche, I encountered people with intellectual disabilities for the first time. Admittedly, I was unfamiliar with this aspect of life and had never met anyone with disabilities. To say it was a shock is an understatement. However, once I realized that there was no turning back, life quickly turned into a journey that had me ‘joyriding’ with my new friends. There was a lot of learning and unlearning, and some of it included learning to hold the moments as they defined a new understanding and outlook on life. Other learnings included acknowledging the graces that seeped  through one’s being to embrace the sacredness of life that was unfolding in front of them. The first few years provided a lens through which to understand the world from the perspective of people who were often rejected and excluded from participating in community. Many were denied of existence. I realized then why I had never met a person with disabilities and why no one ever talked about people with disabilities.

One question I had during those early years was why, if we are all made in the image of God, are some accepted and considered ‘normal’ while others are rejected and deemed unfit? It seemed contradictory to Genesis 1:27, the very first book of the Bible: So God created humankind in his image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.

L’Arche offers the gift of discovering a way of life within a community where genuine relationships of mutual care and respect are nurtured. Through early friendships in the community, I was able to experience the unique gifts of individuals and came to truly understand the meaning of the word ‘created in the image of God.’ The life of and relationships in the community become an instrument for understanding why the majority of the world misses the opportunity to experience the riches of diverse gifts of some people, especially if they lack a high transactional value. Life in the community offers an antithesis to what it means to be successful. It reveals the beauty of life and people in the most mundane things, living and owning life as a celebration, and at times, causing big chaos, but always knowing and accepting life as sacred and worthy of being lived and celebrated with all of its vulnerabilities and strengths. The most important lesson here for me was that the gift of people is revealed to us when we accept them for who they are and for their capacity to help us transform into better humans. These experiences led me to understand the Beatitudes (Matthew, 5:1-12) and the Gospel’s core teachings, which challenge us and offer clear guidance for a life of righteousness, grace, and compassion.

The core principle of Catholic Social Teaching (CST) is upholding human dignity, and L’Arche embodies this fundamental truth. When I discovered CST, I saw how its teachings are naturally applied at L’Arche. This is how life is at L’Arche.  L’Arche offers four key lessons about human dignity as articulated in CST: the right to life and relationships, the sanctity of every person, the opportunity to participate in community and work within one’s ability, and access to dignified care. For example, meaningful participation is ensured by having the opportunity to work with your hands. Life is organised in the community, with opportunities to create, learn, and produce together and sometimes earn a small wage for spending or keeping in the bank. For some community members, having the opportunity to work in or outside the community and earn a salary is significant as it allows them to contribute to the community and add value. I remember Peter, a retired worker from one of the communities where I lived, saying, ‘Having the opportunity to work gives me respect, and I have something to look forward to when I get up in the morning; I don’t want to be stuck in my room all day, and that is not fair for anyone.’

Of course, this isn’t an option for everyone. Adam, who is nonverbal and uses a wheelchair, found working outside the community challenging.

However, he enjoyed being the greeter and helping in the candle-making workshop or gardening with assistance. There is always something for people to participate in, which I believe is essential to living and upholding the dignity of each individual in the most real way.

Reflecting on my years living and working with people at L’Arche, I can attest that we all carry immense power and potential to transform the world into a better place. No one is less than the other as we are all created in the image of God. When we deny the chance of the other to fully live, we deny ourselves an opportunity to encounter the mystery and gift of life that each person has to offer. Treating one another with dignity and respect is imperative, and that starts with us; if we don’t practise and demonstrate these values in our daily interactions — like how we respond to someone seeking help at our door or to those who demand lots of our time and attention within our vicinity — we remind ourselves and others of what we genuinely value and prioritise. Beyond our homes, how we conduct our work and interact with others, especially those we lead or who differ from us in values, reveals whether we truly uphold dignity as a core value. In our communities and cities, our responses to those who are displaced or struggling with poverty or addiction reflect our collective commitment to human dignity. On a broader scale, we can assess our social systems by examining how well they ensure access to education, clean water, healthcare, housing, and essential services. When these needs are met, we can affirm that human dignity is a guiding priority in our society.

Pope John XXIII, in his encyclical Pacem in Terris, emphasised respecting the rights of every person as essential for peace. A deeper look at the root cause of all chaos, wars, and calamities around the world reveals that it all began from the breakdown or absence of respect for human dignity. When we learn to treat each other with dignity despite our differences in abilities, strengths, values, and socioeconomic and cultural backgrounds, we will begin to see humans as sacred gifts. The absence of dignity and respect leads to the absence of love, peace, and joy. We all have the power to be a source of hope and change and to be a true instrument designed to respond to the call of the Gospel – to love and to be loved so all can live in harmony, and the brokenness of the world can be healed.

References:

i L’Arche: We are people with and without intellectual disabilities, sharing life in communities belonging to an International Federation. Mutual relationships and trust in God are at the heart of our journey together. We celebrate the unique value of every person and recognise our need of one another. https://www.larche.org/about-larche/

ii Human Dignity: https://www.vatican.va/content/catechism/en/part_three/section_one/chapter_one.html

Article credit: Kairos Global, September 2024- A Catholic magazine for youth and young families published by Jesus Youth, an International Catholic Movement approved by the Holy See.

 

The Gift of Suffering

Lent brings forth reflections on suffering, the cross, and other sacrificial aspects of life and love more profoundly than any other time of the year for me. Therefore, I am sharing a few thoughts on suffering, what I have learned, and how it continues to influence my life. While none of this is new, I am keenly aware of our tendency to avoid pain and suffering as much as possible, sometimes at the hefty cost of not accepting life in its fullness. Our desire to evade suffering often leads us to make mediocre decisions that may have consequences for us, those around us and the generations that follow us. For example, our inclination to avoid difficult conversations and close an eye on injustice in our community are some everyday choices we make to avoid pain/discomfort. Understandably, no one wishes to embrace suffering as a joyful gift, as did the early saints whose lives were marked by pain and suffering, as well as immense hope and joy. Drawing inspiration from The Passion Week and the Crucifixion, I seek to explore how our lives are intertwined with suffering and the everyday joys of life. What does the suffering on the cross and the agony in the garden teach us?

One of the first lessons I took from Passion Week is the acknowledgement of the impending pain and suffering that awaited Jesus on the cross; the agony in the garden makes it real for us. The more I think about it, the more convinced I am that it is the reason we are afraid of pain and suffering. The crucifixion of Christ serves as a reminder that suffering often makes you feel isolated, abandoned, and afraid that you will not have the strength to endure the trials. Sometimes, we want to give up rather than go through it, and that is when Jesus offers light and hope with his prayer in the garden and reveals humanity in suffering.

Jesus’ approach demonstrates how accepting rather than escaping the pain and suffering can lead to something greater. However, to see beyond the obvious, one must have faith, hope, and patience to recognize the life lessons learned from the experience. Acknowledging pain and suffering as an integral aspect of life enables us to overcome the fear of obstacles that could derail our plans, impede our growth, and deter us from taking risks or confronting life changes.

Another lesson and gift from the cross is that it pushes us to expand our perspective beyond our boundaries. It beckons us toward greatness and illuminates our purpose on earth as interconnected with the rest of humanity. Just as a diamond is refined through fire, a life that embraces and traverses suffering, discerning its purpose, radiates light upon the world. The lives of saints and countless leaders who preceded us serve as testaments to this truth, as they left lasting marks on the world through their life choices and sacrifices.

Apart from the theological and religious significance of Jesus’s death and resurrection on the cross, it offers many transformative lessons for everyday people who may not engage with the deeper religious connotations. It reveals our inherent humanity, fragility, and the ultimate sacrifice one can make for another. In our daily choices, when we strive to positively impact others through our actions and existence, whether for family members, children, neighbours, colleagues, or the broader collective good, we acknowledge the potential for pain and alienation. This acceptance of pain and suffering also teaches us to confront our fears and silence the negative voices that hinder us from overcoming harmful addictions, addressing lingering hurts, forgiving those who have wronged us, letting go of toxic relationships, etc.

In essence, the Death on the Cross is not merely a great example of pain and suffering, but rather an invitation to live and embrace life fully, with unconditional love and a commitment to “love your neighbor as yourself” even amidst life’s hardships. It is about living for and with others, enriching our existence with empathy and compassion and offering hope to the world. By embracing this truth, we impart an invaluable gift upon our children and future generations: the realization that life is a delicate balance between despair and joy, presenting opportunities for personal growth and fostering a deeper love and care for humanity.